I have been annoyed by your recent posts on your social media accounts, which being your bestfriend, I follow and strive to keep up with religiously. It’s still bitter tweets for him, about him, his new girlfriend, him, him, him, come on woman! It’s been months! you guys broke up the same time me and M broke up, we both cried our hearts out and even got drunk as fuck. It’s been what? 5 months? I have already moved on with my life, sister why cant you? Mike already did.
According to you, he has a new girlfriend now, who is an older woman. And you are so furious at him, why? he’s not cheating on you, in simpler terms: YOU DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO GET HURT ANYMORE. Because you two dont have a commitment anymore, you dont even talk, you shouldnt even care about him anymore, you should treat him like he was someone you used to know. Sister, stop obsessing over him, stop harassing him and his new girl, I am your bestfriend and I will stand by you til the end but by now, let me be the voice of reason. If we were in highschool I wouldve joined you in your plan to physically assault, and humiliate the “old hag”, but no I am 21 years old now and I’m too old for that shit. The lady didnt do anything wrong to you, you have no grounds, he is a single man.
Stop this foolishness, stop chasing after someone who doesnt want to be chased. You’ll gain nothing from it, he wont come back because if he wanted to, he wouldve months ago, stop hoping, he wouldnt have left you in the first place if he loved you. That’s what I tell myself every night, besides you two were like us as well, you werent a good couple. On many occasions we found ourselves crying because of our boyfriends right? what helped me move on was the realization that not everyone you lose is a loss. Which was true for me, he never was a good boyfriend and I wasnt a good girlfriend for him either. There was this one night when I almost begged him to come back to me because I felt lonely, but then I thought about the times he chose most people over me, how he never made an effort for me, how he never listened to me, and again I was reminded why I let him go in the first place.
There’s always a reason why things happen, maybe you two were separated because your relationship did more harm than good, maybe you arent for each other and he was introduced to you to serve as a lesson. Take it from me, everything will become easier once you get rid of all sorts of contact with him, unfollow him on every social media sites, delete his number, erase your conversations, delete all his photos, and once you’re done with this, in comes the hardest part, moving on. The moment M unfriended me on facebook, I felt sad because I thought I’ll never see him again, but after a week or two I realized that it was a good thing, it sped up my moving on process, along with that I also unfollowed his sisters on facebook, his cousins, his friends, everyone related to him, I put everything that reminded me of him in a box, and I forced myself to forget every song I wrote for him. And now I am no longer stuck up on him, I still think of him from time to time but not as much as I used to, now I can finally say that losing him wasnt that bad because we were both bad for each other anyway, maybe it’s time for you to do the same sis.
I promise you, it’s better than being bitter and negative all the time. Im not saying that you should be rude to him and not smile when you see him, be nice enough to reply to him if he ever greet you on your birthday, smile at him when you pass each other, dont make things awkward. I know I can do that now, I know I can smile at M because I am not angry anymore, because it doesnt hurt anymore, because I accepted everything, and because I already forgave him. Maybe that’s what you need, to forgive someone who was never sorry. So cheer up, enough with the hatred, there are plenty of things to look forward to in life, we are young remember that! there are jobs waiting for us, adventures, food to eat, roadtrips, drunk nights, and if our exes are already dating why dont we? we’ll find our Princes, and this time around they will be the right ones, cheer up! forget those who forgot you 😉